11.05.2006

Another One Bites the Dust

I don't really know how to feel in hearing the news of Pastor Ted Haggard's previous secret of crystal meth use and gay sex (I know, he only admits to getting a "massage"). Part of me wants to shout for joy, and part of me hurts for him and his family. As much as I think Freud to be wacko, he actually hit the nail on the head when speaking of deep "closet cases" such as Haggard. The good pastor is a classic case of reaction formation, lashing out at that characteristic that most deeply defines himself.

I hurt for his family, not because Haggard is gay, but because of the process of healing they are all going to have to go through now. I know if the process is done right, healing will occur. Healing, in this case, means his wife moves on in a healthy way, and Haggard discovers how to live as a healthy gay man. I want to shout for joy because this is another case of the deep hypocrisy in moral code-based spirituality. I pray that something goods comes of it.

Peace & Blessings.

1 comment:

Danifesto said...

Hmm.. I pray some good can come out of it as well. I do like his wife's letter that basically said "we don't have the perfect marriage" and "we aren't perfect people." I think too often we elevate our ministers to this pedestal that is a very lonely and dehumanizing place. I feel for his family as well and I hope they don't see this as a negation of any of the love that they shared with him. At some point, you would wonder though just "who ARE you?"

I don't feel sorry for him at all. He had to have known he was making himself vulnerable by expressing his anti-gay views while having this past at the same time. And his outright denial of even knowing this guy smelled too. People usually appreciate honesty and being upfront instead of how this was practically forced out of him.